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One and Two: Parenting Through the “I Can Do It” Phase

One and Two: Parenting Through the “I Can Do It” Phase

Authors: Reggie Joiner, Kristen Ivy

Toddlerhood: This is the phase when nobody’s on time, everything’s a mess, and one eager one- or two-year-old will insist, “I can do it.”

If parents can’t get out the door because their toddler won’t budge until he puts on his own shoes, they might be in one of the best phases of their child’s life.

In this short volume, Kristen Ivy and Reggie Joiner simplify what parents need to know so they can make the most of the present realities, the distinctive opportunities, and the future implications of the next 104 weeks.

One and Two, written by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy, is part of the Phase Project, a synthesis of real-life parent experiences, academic research, and gatherings of leaders and educational experts from across the ministry and child development spectrum.


“Parents who are trying to decide if they have what it takes will find encouragement, humor, and expertise in these pages from Kristen Ivy and Reggie Joiner. With practical advice for parents at any experience level, this guide … will make life a little easier and make the big picture a lot brighter.”—Sherry Surratt, CEO, MOPs International; author; grandmother

“We all know where we want to end up in our parenting, but how to get there can seem like an unsolved mystery. Through the It’s Just a Phase series, Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy team up to help us out. The result is a resource that guides us through the different seasons of raising children, and provides a road map to parenting in such a way that we finish up with very few regrets.”—Sandra Stanley, foster care advocate, blogger, wife of Andy Stanley, mother of three

“Not only is the It’s Just a Phase series of books the most creative and well-thought-out guide to parenting I have ever encountered, these books are ESSENTIAL to my daily parenting. With a 13-year-old, 11-year-old, and 9-year-old at home, I am swimming in their wake of daily drama and delicacy. These books are a reminder to enjoy every second. Because it’s just a phase.”—Carlos Whittaker, author, speaker, father of three

  • Reggie Joiner

    Reggie Joiner

    Reggie Joiner is the founder and CEO of The reThink Group (also known as Orange), a non-profit organization whose purpose is to influence those who influence the next generation. reThink provides resources and training for churches and organizations that create environments for parents, kids, and teenagers.

    Prior to reThink, Reggie co-founded North Point Community Church in Alpharetta, Georgia, with Andy Stanley. During his 11 years as the executive director of family ministry, he developed a new concept for relevant ministry for children, teenagers, and married adults. If you end up road tripping with him across the country on Orange Tour, be prepared to stop at every antique store along the way. He has found a way to wear orange for 3,453 days and counting.

    Reggie has authored and co-authored many books including Think Orange; The Think Orange Handbook; Zombies, Football and the Gospel; Seven Practices of Effective Ministry; Parenting Beyond Your Capacity; Lead Small; Creating a Lead Small Culture; and It’s Just a Phase.

    Reggie and his wife, Debbie, live in Cumming, Georgia, and have four children: Reggie Paul, Hannah, Sarah, and Rebekah. For more information about Reggie Joiner, follow him on Twitter @ReggieJoiner.

  • Kristen Ivy

    Kristen Ivy

    Kristen Ivy is executive director of messaging at Orange. Before beginning her career at the company in 2006, she was a high school biology and English teacher, where she learned first hand the joy and importance of influencing the next generation. She received her Master of Divinity in 2009. At Orange, Kristen has played an integral role in the evolution of the preschool, middle school, and high school curriculum and has shared her experiences at speaking events across the country. Kristen is co-author of Creating a Lead Small Culture, It’s Just a Phase, Zero to One, and One and Two. She is an eclectic mix of collegiate cheerleading captain turned theologian whose dream is to star in Cirque du Soleil.

    Kristen lives in Cumming, Georgia, with her husband, Matt, and their three young children. For more information, visit or follow her on Twitter @Kristen_Ivy.